An Ode to my lover | Guest Post

Guest Post by Varun Dixit

उसने कहा खेल था वह प्यार जवानी का, कोई पूछे क्या हुआ उस राधा-कृष्ण की प्रेम-कहानी का?

उसने कहा वह सब कसमें वादे झूठे थे, कोई उनसे पूछे उन आंसुओं का क्या जब वह हमसे रूठे थे?

उनका सर रख कर मेरी गोद में सो जाना भी क्या झूठा था ?

क्या झूठा था उनका मेरे सर पे हाथ फिरा के मुझको समझना?

क्या झूठा था बात-बात हमको उनका साजन कह जाना, जब हम जाते तो क्या झूठा उनका वह सिसकी भर के रह जाना?

क्या झूठे थे वह सपने जो हमने साथ में देखे थे, क्या झूठे थे वह प्रेम पत्र जो उसने हम को भेजे थे?

क्या यूँ ही झूठा था उनका हम से गुस्सा हो जाना, क्या झूठा था वह हमारी यादों में उनका खो जाना?

क्या झूठा थे सपनो का ताज-महल जो हमने उनके लिए बनाया था?

क्या झूठा था वह पहला खाना जो उन्होंने हमारे लिए बनाया था?

क्या झूठे थे वह इंतज़ार के पल जो हमने उनकी याद में बिताए थे.. क्या झूठे थे वह प्रेमहार जो मन ही मन हमने उनको पहनाए थे?

क्या झूठे थे वह प्यार से खेल जो हम साथ में खेला करते थे, वह गुलाब की हर पट्टी पे तुम्हारा नाम लिख हवा में फेंका करते थे?

क्या यूँ ही झूठा था वह तुम्हारा मुझको गृहिणी बनकर दिखलाना.. वह मेरे कहने पर साड़ी पहनकर तुम्हारा यूँ मिलने आना?

क्या झूठा था वह यकीन जो मेरे माथे पे तुम्हारा लबों के रखे तुम मुझे दिलाती थी.. हर बार जब भी मैं गुस्सा तुम मेरे चेहरे वह मुस्कान ले आती थी?

वह तुम्हारा मेरे खुशियों में खुश होजाना.. वह मेरे आंसू निकलने से पहले तुम्हारा रो जाना

वह मेरे मन की बात समझ तुम्हारा चुपके से आके मुझको आगोश में भर लेना.. मेरे कुछ बोलने से पहले ही तुम्हारा वह ऊँगली रखके मुझको चुप कर देना..?

वह तुम्हारा रोज़ यूँ मुझसे मिलने आना.. जाने की ज़िद करना.. फिर छोड़ कर हमको न जा पाना..?

वह ढलते सूरज को देख तुम्हारा मेरी बाँहों में यूँ पिघल जाना.. फिर ज़रा सी आहट से तुम्हारा सम्हल जाना.?

वह मेरे छूते ही तुम्हारे रोम रोम का यूँ थिरक जाना.. कहना बहुत बुरे हो तुम.. फिर मेरे गले से लिपट जाना.?

अगर वह झूठा था..तो फिर झूठा होगा मीरा के प्रेम राग..?

झूठा होगा वह हीर का यूँ राँझा हो जाना..वह सोहनी का रोज साजन से मिलने जाना और एक रात यूँ ही उस नदी में खो जाना..?

झूठे होंगे वह राधा कृष्ण के महारास..वह गोपियों का प्रेम योग और वह उद्धव को ज्ञान प्रकाश..?

झूठे हो जायेंगे वह सूर्य के छन्द, वह कबीर के दोहे, वह रास खान की बातें..?

मगर क्या यूँ ही सब कुछ एक पल में झूठा हो जाया करता है.. जिसको धड़कन बना के रखते है वह एक पल में यूँ ही खो जाया करता है..?

एक आखिर बार पूछता हूँ तुमसे क्या सच में खेल था वह प्यार जवानी का?

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Unsaid Feelings

She's holding the phone in her hand closely and tightly, and continuously staring at the screen where his name is flashing as a whatsapp contact.

He was busy in the office; tired and helpless, took a 5 minute break just to have a decent conversation with her. As he opened the messenger, it shows she is 'online'. He is now thinking to whom is she chatting at 1:00 am? He told himself that she has someone else in her life who's keeping her busy at this hour and they must be having deep conversations and hence I should not intervene and forget about her because she can't be mine.

She's silently lying on her bed and her heart pounds as his 'last seen at 10:00' turns to 'online'. She's now waiting for him to type something. But all of a sudden he goes offline. She now thinks that he came online to reply to someone special in his life and went off. He's busy and there is someone special in his life. Since I was waiting for a message from him but he didn't even bother. I should stop thinking about him because he can never be mine.

# Two people who are deeply, immensely and irrevocably in love with each other, cooked up their own versions of the other person's life, and now they don't even dare to initiate a conversation and yet wait for each other's message. A simple 'hi', which would have changed the entire scenario, died just because of the misconception which they carry around and is now ruining their love for each other. If you love her, go and tell her NOW! And girls, it is no big deal if you initiate because guys like confident girls. Be bold and accept your love for each other because this is the time when we can choose our partner, when we can choose with whom we are willing to live and face obstacles, lay while the sun shines, hug when it's cold, watch the stars at night, share coffee from the same cup, visit places, grow old together and die. Else your parents will tie you to someone else(might even be the most boring person) and just for the sake of society you'll have to spend the rest of your life with someone whom you never loved and probably never will. And somewhere, deep down your heart will ache and regret that "I wish, I would have confessed my feelings to him/her, revealed them when there was time, confronted my feelings when I had the chance and my life would have something else, I would have been someone else, I would have had a life!". There will be no late night conversations, no CCD dates, no cheap alcohol. This is the moment, make the most of it. Feel the power of love!  

So, I hope after reading this post you'll take the first step and won't let the right person go from your life. Share your story with me in the comment section below. I'd love to hear your story. :) 

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Why Fighting Can Be Good for Your Relationship

I know you must be thinking how fighting can be healthy in any relationship. Right? Well, really it is not that bad either.

The simplest and the first logic says 'No TWO people are the same' hence it is obviously difficult to adjust with the other, but sometimes the feelings are so true and strong that you just can't afford to let that person go. So, if you guys are fighting then take it this way: While mixing two materials the reaction between them could generate heat, like it happens in any chemical reaction. Just try to add some chemistry in your relationship! I hope you must have understood by now what I'm trying to say because I am pretty good with Chemistry and I can explain it with fairly good numbers of chemical reactions too.  

        

My second logic goes like this: If you are fighting with your partner it is not because you want to get away from him/her, well that's because you do not like something about the situation and you have full right to tell them that you're not happy as you cannot fake as well. So it's fair enough to have a disagreement sometimes. Here's a little tip from my side that whenever you fight kindly don't lose hope of getting back together because if there's no hope, there's no way. After all, if you can love, kiss, cuddle then disagreements & conflicts comes along with the package and you guys have to deal with it and sort it out, together.

         

If you guys are fighting then it's no big deal because as my third logic implies, it's good to know the dark side of your partner as well so as to know what extent he/she can go while fighting. If he/she's abusing you then you should stop him/her right away because as per my personal experience if there's no respect for each other then there's nothing much left in a relationship. You should not lose your cool over petty issues and there's no room for abuse or violence. Just peace out, lovers.

         

Now the final one and trust me the most cutest logic is: You should have the genuine perception about your partner and if that leads to some kind of argument or cold war then it's okay because later when you guys talk, trust me that will definitely become one of the best conversations. It is that phase where you open your heart and say things more clearly and even accept it lovingly as you have to compensate for the time you lost where you guys didn't talk at all. Inside, you're dying to hear something from him/her so when that happens you giggle a little, curse a bit, and realize how crazily in love you are with him/her. Well I call it 'sleeping phase' in which lovers take rest from each other and when both of them wake up, they feel fresh and more loving.

                  

So next time whenever you guys end up in some kind of argument, don't worry. Keep calm and remember to keep the flame of hope burning, maintain respect and kick start the conversation again. And tell your partner honestly what bothers you and if you think that will make you look clingy, well that's not. Trying to workout things with your lovey-dovey is pretty cool and if you're the first one to start the conversation keeping your ego aside then you're definitely going to earn some respect from your partner as well. 

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A true Lovestory never ENDS.

We always talk about true love, how deeply you are in love with the person, how you can do anything for him/her. But we always ignore the other part of the story, about our parents, our family, and our ethics. Well this is a story of two who were deeply in love.  This story is about Sumit and Pooja. Sumit’s family just shifted to a new place where Pooja used to live. They were neighbors and soon became good friends. They both are of same age and they completed their 12^th boards’ exam together. And just by chance they fell in love with each other. Everything was just too perfect. Their families bonded well too. So they thought in future, there will be no problem if they continue their relationship.

They faced many problems but nothing could ever break the bond they shared. As they completed their graduation, Sumit’s family started looking for a girl. They (Sumit and Pooja) used to cry a lot but Sumit’s stubborn nature saved their relationship. When Sumit’s parents discovered their relationship, they broke all their ties with Pooja’s family and never spoke to them.  The only problem was RELIGION. Pooja was Punjabi and Sumit was a Baniya. Can you imagine both of them were Hindu and still faced caste issues? (Well, that’s why I hate my country and our caste system).On the other hand Pooja’s elder brother was supportive but very strict, and he felt that Sumit’s family won’t ever accept their relationship so he asked Pooja to end it because there seemed no possible future for their relation.

Sumit was finally independent and they could have easily run away and live together but they didn’t. He was afraid of the society that if they eloped, people will comment on their family, and about his sister who was studying and in future, people will make up bad things about her character also. Sumit cried in front of Pooja’s brother and somehow convinced him that there is a possibility for their marriage in future.

Sumit’s mom was getting worried for his son and people started making stuff about their relationship, but they never cared for it. Sumit’s father was a stubborn man, and he made a decision that Pooja cannot be a part of their family. But Sumit made his own decision that he’ll marry only Pooja otherwise he will not marry anyone. After some years when they finally realized how much they are in love with each other, it melted their hearts and they finally were tied to each other in the sacred bond of love, they were married. They waited 13 years for this day and finally their hard work and their love paid off. 

True love stories are so rare these days. They could have easily run away and could have started their own new life but Sumit’s love and care for his family and especially for her sister made her so strong that he once decided that he would not marry anyone. Through this story, I just want to spread a message that no matter how much you love someone but please don’t just neglect your family. Our parents did so much for us and I don’t think they deserve to be ashamed because of us. They taught us how to walk and now when they are getting old, how can you just leave them? Try to convince them, they cannot be harsh on you for long. They brought you into this world, and they always wish for happiness in your life. Love them because they really deserve to be loved.

AND THEY LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER…. :)

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Crazy.Stupid.Love

I’m in love, once again. It was very tough for me to realize this but I cannot hide it anymore. I’m a very filmy person by heart that after watching YE JAWAANI HAI DEEWANI, it was so tough to control that feeling. He was by my side, but the awkwardness was there between us. I don’t know why but I don’t want him to realize that thing at all. After 8 long years, they finally met so I guess; if our heart really touched each other’s then we’ll surely be together forever.

“I want to sneak out from my marriage“- This time I’m totally positive about it, that if something was there between us, you’ll be the one with whom I’d wish to run away. 

“You’ll be my extra-marital”- I want you to be with me forever and for all eternity. No extra marital, but I’ll be loyal to you forever.

Love can make you or break you, soon he’s going to start his career and I don’t want him shattered because of me. Love happens but it just needs the right time to ignite the fire, so I’ll wait for the moment. I hope when you’ll come back, everything will be just fine and we’ll be together.

I know I’m an ass, but I want you to tame me. I know I’m a wannabe but at this time I just WANT you.
I know I’m dumb, but I want to fall in love with you blindly, dumbly in all possible ways.

P.S: I love you and I’ll miss you. Come back soon, I’ll be waiting for you. I just cannot think about any other person because my desire is to be at your side.

It’s been a year, I’m without love; but those 12 months were fine, but now without you a few seconds seems like an eternity of solitude to me. Every breath of mine yearns for you, my soul needs you, and my heart is beating for you and only you.

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